What I've Learned From Marriage So Far

The hubby and I celebrate two anniversaries every year: our marriage and our dating/wedding anniversary. We were married by a commissioner on February 14, 2012 and had a more traditional ceremony with a pastor and reception party on August 17,  2012 (which also happens to be our dating anniversary). I can't believe that today we celebrate our eleven year dating anniversary (Happy Anniversary Babe!). 

I wanted to share a few things I've learned over the course of my relationship and marriage. You may or may not agree with any or all but I'm always curious to learn more about how people create a successful and long-lasting relationship and marriage so maybe you are too! 

1. Say I'm Sorry.

I think this took me at least 7 years to figure out. Man oh man was I stubborn when we first started dating. I think everyone is a little stubborn when it comes to apologies or admitting fault. For some reason I always felt like if I was to say I'm sorry first, I've lost or given in. But ultimately, everyone ends up losing when no one is willing to admit fault. The argument or problem goes unresolved and anger and frustration builds up. Disagreements and arguments are inevitable, but how long they last is up to you. Saying "I'm Sorry" is incredibly powerful and brings the defensive guards down when expressed by the person you have your guard up against in the first place. 

2. Go on Dates. 

Never let the romance leave your relationship. Set time aside each week to spend time together and experience new things. Currently my hubby and I have a goal of trying one new restaurant each month in the city. 

3. Don't sweat the small stuff.

Enter Elsa's Frozen song 'Let it Go' here. 

4. Focus on the Good. 

You're with the person you're with for a reason and it's important to remind them (and sometimes yourself) of those reasons. What do you love about them? How do they contribute positively to your relationship? Share those positive thoughts with them and let them know you appreciate their efforts. 

5. Laugh.

I can't even being to describe how ridiculous my hubby and I are when we're alone together. I swear our neighbours must think we're crazy half the time with the amount of singing we do at the top of our lungs. Sometimes we forget that the windows are open.. oops! Laughter is such a big part of my marriage and allows me to connect with my hubby in a way that no one else understands.